如何使自己专注于目标

在我职业生涯的早期,我听到这样的报价:“每个玩家都必须接受生命为他或她带来的纸牌:但是一旦掌握了,就必须独自决定如何玩纸牌才能赢得比赛。”哎哟!那句话曾经使我很恼火,因为它是如此真实!

担任顾问的工作使我对人们为何无法实现其目标有深刻见解。我与200多个寻求更好生活的人一起工作,我发现一个人’思维方式比他们可能会遇到的情况更重要地决定了他们是否会实现自己的目标。

当我们度过艰难时期时,我们倾向于将重点放在我们的问题上,而不是专注于解决方案。我们将重点放在无法做某事的所有原因上。这个词是一个 借口。 当事情变得艰难而我们正在寻找出路时,任何理由都将使我们偏离我们的主要目标,任何理由都足够使我们没有成功的许可。在这些情况下,我们需要做的就是将思维方式转变为改变当前状况的能力。

我上面提到的声明迫使您考虑删除这些借口。它迫使您成为批判性思想家,并提出可以解决您当前情况的问题:“即使我一生都在经历着这些事情,我仍然需要做些什么才能做到?”这就是这样的声明背后的力量。

需要什么

如果你’到目前为止,您从未实现过任何真正伟大的事情,然后您不知道要实现真正伟大的事情需要什么。再读一遍’s not just a cute little saying. What I mean is that anything in life worth accomplishing WILL inevitably take a lot of work and sacrifice, and will require you to change who you currently are, to become the person you need to be. 如果你 have never had to put yourself through these circumstances in order to achieve anything of significance then the natural tendency is to run away from the discomfort and pain that come from these situations. Making excuse as to why you cannot do something creates a comfort within you.

如果你 have ever felt this way, if you’在您的生活中有一些时刻,您不得不问自己是否’值得,那么我对您的问题就是:“对您来说值得吗?” I cannot answer that question for you, only you are able to. But you have to answer this question honestly. 如果你 were not going through hard times, would you quit working on this goal? When we make decisions based on short-term circumstances, we rob ourselves from our long term results.

一旦确定自己的工作是终生目标的一部分,就必须实现它!它不应该’只是做一件好事。如果这是您的心态,那么当事情变得艰难时,您一定会放弃。

仅仅因为您没有立即看到结果并不意味着它们’re not on their way. You must not grow weary in well-doing, for in due season you will reap a harvest! Keep your goals right in front of you. Write them down on an index card and keep it in your pocket. Tell your family and friends about your pursuits and ask for their encouragement and support. Post pictures on your fridge and on your walls. Become so fanatical about your future that it is all you think about. 如果你 keep the main thing the main thing, then no excuse will be enough to sway you from your vision.

最主要的事情由您决定。在这个世界上,您最想实现的一件事是什么?您愿意为达成目标付出一切吗?提出自己的观点,这样一来,当您问自己是否值得时,就不会有犹豫的时刻,您的回答是:“ABSOLUTELY IT IS!”花时间去弄清楚,然后去实现它!